First...where did she move to? Second...how is she supporting herself and the child? Third...Have you identified who the other guy is?
She is definately keeping you on a string as the backup guy in case things don't work out with the OM. Per your posts about his emails....he seems reluctant and she is pursuing. I would meet with this guy and let him know what he could be destroying!!
Don't sit back shaking like a leaf while others decide your fate. Get in there and be proactive.
