I dont wish any emotional pain on my X. I believe she is regretful of the path she has chosen. And now she has a big operation today (with some uncertainties) and will be layed up for 2 months. I feel sorry for her a bit, but the forking over of $170K that I have to come up with soon makes me realize she is going to be ok financially for a while. She will come to accept the D eventually. I just dont think she ever thought this whole thing through very well a year ago when she strayed and did not want to be married to me anymore.
One of my major todo's now is getting my house in order. The first thing is to gather up all of the X's stuff into boxes and put them into the garage so she can get it when she is better. One of the things that always bugged me about her was her continually shopping and buying stuff/clutter to fill my small house with. GF40 has watched a good amount of HGTV and has a lot of suggestions as to how I can make the inside of my house much better.
