Recipe for a Military Wife

[sandycay]

Wow, You've exhausted me just looking at your weekend! I think you really are doing well. Stay the course. You never answered my question though. Have you and H ever talked about the end of this deployment?

Sometimes when I would want to ask my H about something without seeming confrontational and I used it to test the waters during our seperation I would use the phrase "what does that look like to you". Like if I wanted to know how he felt about getting a D, I would say..... "If we D, what does that look like to you?"

Everytime I have used that he would always respond, "What?" LOL

I would just respond back, "Well, usually when people talk about te future you kind of have an idea of what it looks like, could you please explain to me what this looks like to you?"

It asks their opinion and makes them really think about. By the way, listen and validate during those question times because if you get defensive and try to argue why they shouldn't "look at it that way" it shuts down communication really fast.

I had forgotten about that line until my friend used it on me the other day but what a handy one if you don't over use it.

Blessings to your family today SMW!