That is a good question Gypsy...I am not sure I can answer that right now. Can it be a combination of both? can it depend on who the person i meet is and how she "affects" me? I have a date for next Saturday night with IL40 and I got the ok from my cousin as far as original impressions is concerned....and her number. Need to get over to see Mike for juggling lessons. My W just called me just to chat and ask how my weekend was. It is obvious that what I feel after these calls is nowhere close to what I did a couple of months ago. But i have to say that in spite of all the negatives, I still care and wish her success. Incidentally I spoke to my stepdaughter18 (she lives out west) she is coming in for the holidays and wants to spend at least a day with me. That was kind of nice....she sure matured in the 6 months that she has been on her own... That is it in a nutshell I am off to the office.....and it is bloody cold out here.