Your H is feeling major 'me-crud'. That's why he can't communicate the way an adult should about..via phone or in person.
He can't face you. That should tell you something about his guilty conscience.
Of course he'd rather deal with your D than you! He knows he can manipulate her at her age. He knows he's in the wrong and doesn't have the self-esteem or self-respect to face you.
I'm sorry that you're having to go through this vague communication with him. It finally got to the point with me that I told my L that if my xh needed to know something during the divorce, he (my L) could communicate it through Hs L. It did no good for me to try to talk sensibly with him when it was about things he didn't want to have to deal with or accept.
Do what you have to do to keep things on an even keel for you and your D.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
