That's always the hard part, realizing that there WERE many things she could have done differently.
And holding her accountable for them, or at least giving them to her.
It is not your place to hold her accountable.
Pick up your 50% and leave the rest alone.
Life - this one OR the next - will lay her half on her in due time.
What I meant is 'giving' her 50% of the responsibility instead of keeping it to myself. Not actually telling her she is responsible, just letting go of half the responsibility.
