MsM, thanks for dropping by ! I feel like I am posting to myself sometimes. But it is good therapy anyway.

She loves jewelry. I went to Macy's last week to see what they have. There was a citrine and diamond necklace, beautiful and not cheap, but not outrageous. She loves warm colors. I really think she will like it.

I just got back from her house (rental). We had a small 'fight' regarding what she interpreted as me overiding her authority with our daughter. That has happened in the past, but wasn't intentional tonight, but she is very sensitive to the issue.

That evolved into her feeling that I put our daughter before her, which I did, and presently do. Then she said that is why she left me. (Thats the reason this week!)

Why, you may be wondering, would I have ever put our D over my W ? A valid question, and it deserves a valid answer.

If I said that my wife has clinical depression, constantly had difficulty with sex and never initiated affection, that she emotionally abandoned our daughter at an early age, and overly worried about everything, every movement, every noise made by our normal, healthy, exuberent 6yo, to the point of completely stifleing her, would that begin to explain ?

In a word, our D needed a defender and a nurturer. Wife turned cold and critical towards both of us. I stepped in so she would not become as completely f****d up as my W, who has so many problems because of the mistreatment of her own mother.

I couldn't fix my W, but I could prevent my D from becoming the same way.


Last edited by native; 12/08/08 12:58 AM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6,
Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7
Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09