Bravo LIS. This was her explosion that you knew was coming. And like everyone else here, I heard all those things. Just ignore it. You are separating the crack addict from her drug.
You wrecked 2 marriages? Um....hello? Earth to WW....Heard the exact same thing.
Just continue to be consistent. Do your best DB now. Me thinks the fantasy is falling apart...
H4U, Thanks for the thoughts - missed your comments earlier. Must have been some cross posting.
Will be interesting to see what happens when they finally get home. I have a busy work day tomorrow so will likely take a sleep aid tonight - may not hear them when they get in.
I can be consistent. Not sure if what I am doing is the best DB available, but I have definitely become comfortable with what I am doing.
As I think back over the convo, wish I could have recorded it. I particularly liked the "I will not be having an affair" comment. That did make me stand up straight.
It's winter here for sure now (snow came to stay) and although the Rocky Mountains are a ways off, it would be nice to see the avalanches start... (metaphorically speaking of course)
You know, it's kind of funny when they're spewing all that fog babble at you. I remember sitting on the couch doing everything I could to not laugh at her when she was going off after I told OMW. She was going to give me a chance, but oh boy, not now. And I heard that same thing, that I'd wrecked OM's marriage. I too wish I had a recording of it, because it was just so frickin out there, it was funny.
I would imagine that OM is telling your W that OMW didn't want to hear what you told her because he's trying his best to spin things to your W. My W's OM did the same things. For the next few days it was like every time she'd talk to OM, she'd come at me with more. Since she obviously couldn't think for herself, she had to have OM telling her what to say to me. And WE'RE the controlling ones?
Just ride it out. I guarantee their conversations are no longer hugs and kisses kinds of conversations. And that's when you win.
Don't know if your marriage will make it or not (just like mine), but there's a heck of a greater chance of it WITHOUT OM in the picture.
I think now it the time to hit her with the killer blow. The kids could put the nail in the affair coffin. If she comes back and continues spewing at you and your kids get ANY wind of it, it just might be the time for them to find out what's going on.
If you do tell them, remember, you still love their mother, she's not a bad person, just is doing a bad thing. And you're doing what you think is necessary to save your marriage and keep the family intact.
Chin UP LIS. You're doing GREAT!
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
