And I'm Still Learning

[Tawnya]

{{Beth}} You know..this VERY thing just came up in the thread I was just on..when you said your activities made you wish your hub was there with you..and a very wise person said that you need to reframe your thought of the "perfect family" to include who is in it now..if it's just YOU..then so be it..make the most of that time..he said that, if you keep thinking of your spouse not being part of the activity and you feel incomplete somehow, you aren't really moving forward.. (I'm paraphrasing a bit, but you catch my drift

I had to smile when you said you were stubborn (another common trait..I think we are sisters from another mother LOL)..

AND..I hope this makes you laugh, cause it did me when I read it and thought this, when you said "I refuse to quit on him" I thought of Night at the Museum parodying Brokeback Mountain saying "I ain't quitting you"..LOL..if you haven't seen Night at the Museum, it's pretty cute

Hugs!

Tawnya

[VeronicaV]

Tawnya,

It did make me laugh, thank you for that. I have not seen the movie, I will have to rent it.

What you said about refraing thoughts makes sense and it rings true. I have really properly detached and I know that.

Caught myself looking at this guy on the tour, thinking he was really cute. He smiled at me and that was nice. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. He looks just like H. What a dope I am.

[Neilh23]

BEth....you're not a dope....you just know what you like...

thefamily thing is key....redefine what your family is in your mind, and make the best of a crappy sitch.

don't ever give up....JImmy Valvanone said that, and i think it applies to our sitchs....

[AlexEN]

Beth,

As long as he doesn't act like your husband (or he's a lawyer) that's not necessarily a bad thing!

-AlexEN

[VeronicaV]

Neilh23 - thanks for the positive perspective, that made me feel better. And you are right, I definitely know what I like. As far as giving up - not gonna happen. I will be the freakin' energizer bunny of DBing.

AlexEN - that made me laugh. What do you call 100 lawyers at the bottom of the ocean? A good start. You've probably already heard that, but it is one of my favorites.

Beth

[AlexEN]

Beth,

I have a rather crass one, but it is one of my favorites:

Q: What's the difference between a chicken and a lawyer?

A: A chicken clucks defiance.

[Sometimes you have to say it out loud to hear it.]

-AlexEN

P.S. - I just noticed that you were grappling with the same types of MLC questions I have had (and which drive Sandi up a tree)... Could you stop in at my new thread and let me know what your take is when you have a chance?

It's in Newcomers and it's called Sandi, Puppy, Gucci... Alex' New Home.

Thanks. Gotta fly.

[VeronicaV]

AlexEN,

That was a good one and I did have to say it out loud. I will definitely check out your thread.

Beth

[Tawnya]

LOL you 2 are cracking me up with your lawyer humor

{{Beth}} Woo hoo..go girl..having a guy smile at you..who cares if he looks like your hub or not That should give you a little PMA for today

Definitely check out Night at the Museum..it's a "kid's movie", but not..really cute with Ben Stiller and Owen Wilson and Robin Williams..how can it not at least be funny eh?

Tawnya

[VeronicaV]

I am starting a new thread because I think this one will be locked soon. It is called: "Still More to Learn"