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[davidswife]

H is in the midst of a giant pity party - out of sorts because he doesn't want to face my family. He hasn't seen them since bomb #3 - when he moved out.

I just want to slap him - going on his merry way for over a year with OW - and then wanting everyone to act like it never happened.

I don't want my family put through any of his drama, should I just tell him to stay away while they're here -- maybe just come for dinner on Thursday. The kids and I are so happy to see my family, and now he's got to start w/his crap.

I know I just need to concentrate on having a wonderful visit w/my family, and just ignore his antics. Easier said than done.

dw

[PositivelyMommy]

{{{davidswife}}} At least your family is coming to see you which is terrific. I am glad you kids are excited to see them. This will cheer you up a lot, I bet. It's nice to be surrounded by people who love you and cheer you on.

Your family won't be put thru this drama because I don't think he will have the guts to show. So don't worry about it now, just try to cook a mean turkey and have a good time. Try to have some laughs, go see a movie or something. Forget about H. I hope he feels lonely and left out. So then he can find the true meaning of family and thanksgiving!

[davidswife]

PM,

Well, you were right, he didn't show. We all had a great time without him, and will have fun today putting up some Christmas decorations.

So he blew us off, not even a phone call, but then calls S12 last night at 9:00 to ask him if he wanted to go see a movie today? WTH??? S12 asked him why he didn't come to dinner, H told him "I just wouldn't have been comfortable".

The terrorist sitch in India is terrible. So much hate in the world.

dw

[PositivelyMommy]

I'm sorry he didn't show. He is still thinking about himself. 'He' didn't feel comfortable. He's not thinking about what you would want or what the kids wants.

I am so sorry that he is self-centered right now. But as you saw, it's all for the best. There's much less stress at the table and you all can still have a nice Thanksgiving. Not the same as before but still nice, right? I am sure your family really appreciated all the work you put in for them. It's these times that they can count on that the kids will treasure in their memories. It's great that you didn't break down and not do Thanksgiving just because your H let you down. You're a good sport for holding up the fort!!

[davidswife]

PM,

Well you know how it is, we can't let their behavior affect us. Especially when you have children, I think we set the example of keeping our routines and traditions going, no matter what's going on around us. We have to lead by an example of strength - that this family will go on. As you said before, maybe not the same, but it can still be wonderful.

How have you been? I forgot to comment the other day about your exercising and weight loss. I know you must be totally psyched!! Have you bought yourself a new pair of smaller jeans yet??

How are your spirits? Have you been having any fun?

So many questions....

[Babygirl]

dw thank you so much for your kind words on my thread. so much appreciated. man our men are morons arent they lol!
hugs

[davidswife]

BG,

Total lying, cheating, egg sucking dog morons!

dw

[Babygirl]

LOL oh if you only knew the new words i made up lol!

[PositivelyMommy]

{{{Davidswife}}} How are you doing? I'm OK now, last week was a roller coaster but because he didn't show it was actually better. Is your family back home now? Did the kids have a nice Thanksgiving? Are they doing OK?

[PositivelyMommy]

How are you Davidswife?? It's been a while and I am worried you haven't checked in!