Well, I'm not letting it affect me but I've found out why he needed to borrow that sum of money from our account. OW posted on my SIL FB wall that they were buying a new car. I thought as much as it was kind of obvious. It is kind of useful to know these things though and I can now read them without evoking too much emotion. He hasn't done anymore about selling our car or switching the finance to him so he will be paying for two cars for a while. What is he doing?? I bet she didn't know he had to come and ask to borrow the money from us.
I just don't understand why he has to have things now and doesn't get rid of the old stuff before buying new??? Welcome to the world of crisis I suppose.
Funny though we did the same thing when we moved in together, bought a new flat and got a new car. His family changes cars at the drop of a hat though. His dad bought a BMW drove it 3 times and then decided to buy a more expensive faster one and lost a load of money on it. The difference between h and his dad is that his dad can afford it. Although I am going to act as if h is competent at finance and that I have faith in him being able to balance accounts - this will be a 180 for me. That is not to say I will do anything that will put my interests in any jeopardy.
I'm not going to bring it up at the meeting. Just venting I suppose. His head will be full of those feel good/ new relationship/ exciting purchase endorphins so I have no r expectations from the meeting, it is business. I will be the boring serious stuff he has to deal with. I think all I can do is keep things light maybe try and inject some humour and just be me.
