Breakaway - Sounds like H can't let antyhing go and you fall right into the trap of trying to validate yourself. We know that's not contrustive.
Here is your quote ... "If you voice any complaints or problems or feelings...well then..in his mind, you're miserable, "it's all over with," you can't stand them..."
Maybe he can't deal with confict? Maybe is knows he's wrong but can't admit it and is presenting something else on the surface? If he is wrong, it sounds like he must have some sort of guilt attached to it. Maybe he can't live with the guilt and he knows he's selfimploding.
