Well, with him it goes back to the all or nothing thinking as well. I mean, I AM angry with his parents about some things...but that is NOT the same thing as not being able to stand them.
If you voice any complaints or problems or feelings...well then..in his mind, you're miserable, "it's all over with," you can't stand them...
So then you're left defending yourself (unsuccessfully)from the extreme viewpoint, or reminded to never say anything but sunshine and rainbows.
He's been all sunshine and rainbows tonight, so I told him that I was hurt earlier. As soon as I said that, in the most nonconfrontational way I could, he rolled his eyes...so I said never mind. So he apologized, and then I told him how hard it was when he shouted me down with Drop IT, and so on...and he says he just wants to stop the argument. It was just stupid...it wasn't worth arguing about. We talked a little and he just CANNOT see how he is completely denying me any "voice" when he does these things. He finally agreed but it was totally fake. I'll take it though! LOL/
then, really funny, he was flipping thru Men's Health magazine and they had a page on "speaking her language" and he joked about how he needed to read it...and he looked at it for a while..and then he finally said.."I just don't get this." He seriously doesn't.
<Sigh>
But then we read all the Mexican recipes and talked about which ones to make, so...that was nice.
