best way my tiny lil mind can explain your and your wife's marital dynamic is.
you see her as your wife.
she see's you as Dad.
dude, we gotta get through this..
what can I do?
I think like you said in our phone conversation, and phoenyx also, is that I have the whole world waiting for me to make myself happy so I can go on to better things. Carrying the hurt and burden of W's choices is dragging me down. And as Amy said, I'm the one stopping me from growing.
So, tonight I'm journaling about things I want from life that are just for me and nobody else.
I've got to cut the cord that keeps me connected to W. She doesn't matter any more.