Brilliant Disguises on the Lake Erie Shore

[SingleDad]

Neil - the work you need to do is for yourself. You need to stop thinking about what W is doing... Tell your friends not to mention their W sightings to you.

You need to live your own life... as hard as it is... I think of DBing is more for yourself than the ex... It's about learning how to go on and even enjoy a new re-defined life... If you do everything thinking about the W or that this activity should be a complete family activity, then you are not moving forward. Moving forward is when you can enjoy the time with your kids and not think about W. Your kids are your new family.

I think that God is teaching me what it takes to be a dedicated father on my own - I spend more dedicated time with my daughter than I ever did when my W was around. And now I can raise my daughter my own way without my W telling me how to do things her way.

I miss the "dream of the family"... but when I think of what I had it wasn't the dream - it was going through the motions. Now the dream is my daughter when I have her - I enjoy that time more than I ever did before.

What I have difficulty with is my "single time"... I have been going to the gym... Today I spent the whole day cleaning house.

Yes - I do want a complete family - but not with the woman who my W is now... I see her as being completely selfish.. she is angry and controlling - not the woman I married and knew for 6 of the past 7 years. I have come to understand what happened in my marriage - I have come to see my W for the way she is now - and know I do not want her as she currently is.

Is there someone else for me... I do not know... I have given up hoping me W will change and come back to me... I put up my profile on match.com... there is very little interest - most are not interested in dating someone who is separated... I guess that tell me that I have more time to work on myself...

Well - I think I should copy this to my own thread... anyway - I guess I wanted to express where I stand - as you and I have nearly identical separation time frame and kids ages.