W is ambivalent

[saffie]

I just can't believe how many people fall for that 'unhappily married' and 'soulmate' rubbish.

Who doesn't get a little bored after many years of M or wonder occasionally 'what if?'. It's just most of us are sane enough to know those are just fleeting moments and NOT based in reality.

At the moment your W and OM are emotionally cake eating by staying M'd but getting high on fantasy. They have security with a little excitement thrown in - whilst you have a whole lot of angst.

Once they see what the reality of trying to fulfil their little fantasy would mean, the chances are very high it will soon end. At the moment they are not considering the wider implications of the devastation that would be created by them trying to get together long term. I bet OM's poor W doesn't even know her H is going around saying he is unhappily M'd - poor woman.

I think the reality of the devastation caused by following through on the fantasy is often more shocking to a man than a woman.....letting OM's W in on this might help end this little tete-a-tete.