how crazy your week has been. I'm really proud of you for still loving this boy. It could be very easy to feel some bitterness because in a way he why things are so hard. It's not his fault of course, and really he is very lucky to have you.
I really think your H IS trying to make it work with you, but from history, he's never had to be afraid of you. It is much easier for him to be afraid of her than you. I don't think that means you need to start putting up ultimatums, or being crazy like her, and I think in the end, you will win this because of how your handling it. It's not going to happen easily or quickly and I'm happy to see that H was planning to take his mom. How did he react when he found out you told her about s? I would think that wouldn't have been a good reaction, but it must not have been that bad.
I also agree that it really doesn't matter when the sex stopped. It only matters if it stays stopped. I really think that you need to figure out in what way you can talk to H more about the paternity thing. In some way make it sound like his idea. He is not going to want you to tell him what to do, he already has her doing it, so you've got to be strategic.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
