There is a lot of us here that need to read that post. Frank you know she is right , its no easy though .
Good luck
Yes, I do. She is right. I've been stuck when I should be moving in the direction of dealing with the demons that have kept me down for so many years.
It really doesn't matter what W does any more. It matters what I do to get past my demons so I can live a decent life.
Like Amys H did, my W has given up on me. And she sees that she can get her 'needs' met by someone else. She believes I really didn't want her the past few years and maybe she's right. I didn't want anything that was 'my life'. I can't fix that, I really really can't, and I won't try any more.
The damage is done. I can fix myself and give my girls a decent life. Give myself a decent life. Enough is enough.
I spent some time last night thinking about how ashamed I am of myself. But also thinking that there was so much good in our marriage, in our family. so I'll focus on that and learn to live in my own skin as a probably divorced man. And I'll let go of the guilt and anger and fear.
