Yes, that is pretty much how it is in a nut shell. It seems the more you interfere with them while in MLC, the more they back away. That is until they are ready and have exited the tunnel. Like I said each sitch is different and you have to do what works for you.
I DB'd my h while he was in MLC. I was kind and understanding and there for him when he needed someone to talk to. It will seem like nothing is happening and believe me you will get frustrated, but things are happening with them and we don't see it right away. When my h would be out of contact for weeks at a time and I would see him, I could see the changes even though they were small steps.
