Hey LE!! there you are!! I was very proud of myself in my boundaries and how i worded them, especially with the child sitch, I did a great job. and he even said they were more than reasonable. it was the double whammy of already trying to break them, and the trying to buy me into thinking it was ok.
If he was okay with the boundaries, well, I understand you holding to them.
Originally Posted By: Babygirl
I kinda agree on the cake eating, as if this party deal is all so innocent, what would be the problem with him taking someone along? that is better for me, and honestly safer for him, as she wont be able to try and be on him ya know? neither of them deserve any trust from me, but he will not see it that way, and he wont stand up to her, he keeps saying she has all the power, I said ONLY because you let her.
Either he really is trying to cake eat, or he's petrified of her because she does have a great hold on him. She does have a lot of power, and true he is letting her, but I think what he needs is some legal advice. Have you asked him what he is afraid of? Like, what does he think will happen if he puts his foot down with her? I think if you guys talk again, you need to ask him what he thinks is acceptable. and give him a scenerio if it were you in his shoes, if you had a baby from an A and if he'd be okay with you and the dad spending time together? But be calm. you've got to have almost a lack of emotion, and don't let him engage you in fights, if he raises his voice then tell him you guys can discuss it later when you both can talk calmly.
I agree that you need to continue working on you. being the best babygirl ever. Don't let his choices hurt you. or at least don't let him see it.
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Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
