Ok sooooooo........you aren't going to stop talking to B apparently, and you are going to continue talking to your W and be her friend while she is with OM apparently soooooo.............
Are you just waiting for her to divorce you and meanwhile have an EA with B? Is that the bottom line? I'm not trying to be rude here, I just am wondering what to tell you and if that is what you are doing, then I would change what I say to you.