Hi Julia, You sound so cozy & warm - hope you feel better soon.

Some good advise you have gotten. Remember, you can understand his POV & not have to agree with it. If you need more time to decide - then do so.

Your H showing no emotion, I can totally see. This is a safe place for him.


Ok, here are my crazy thoughts - not advise - just thoughts.
Let's see I think Julia, has been going out & having too much fun & hasn't really had time to think about this. ;\) How about getting a roommate? How about a male roommate? Wonder what your H would think of that?? Always, wonder what the jealousy card would do??? In my H's 1st M - he was unfaithful - so his W was too with others & his BF!!! I do believe, he did try to get her back. It's it strange how our H's are so similiar & we are too (so loyal & all).

I think your priority in this meeting should be to make a connection w/him - not make a concrete decision. By connection I mean just meeting with him. Show him you are looking & doing great & what he is missing out on. Remember be mysterious!!

What's on the table the house & the car??

Me39, XH45
Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats
Divorced 6/4/09
Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)