Matilda and Naej, My W is seven weeks into recovering from her broken toe. We went to a dance Christmas party on Tuesday, and she was able to dance without pain. We went dancing last night, and she had no ill effects.
This should help her mood a great deal, and mine. There was an article in the paper recently about the impact on mood from being around happy people--even acquaintances.
Saturday is my day for cleaning, so I will see what I can do to help her feel more comfortable in the house. I think she wants help with hand washables
She continues to fret about money. I don't think there is anything more I can do to help her.
I'm not willing to change jobs, as I'm happy with mine, and do all the cooking on Sunday for our PT job, so am not willing to take on additional work. She works PT, which is fine, as it frees her up to run errands during the week. I like our current balance of one partner working FT, and the other PT, with the cooking job on Sunday. Our regular jobs pay the bills, while the cooking job pays for recreation and variable expenses like vet bills and car repair.
She is frustrated by limitations. She and I are working with a financial planner, and the first order of business is paying down credit card debt.
The challenge is how to enjoy life in the present, yet stay fiscally responsible. She wants to buy a second used car, and take a winter vacation.
I notice that as time passes, I'm starting to have fleeting feelings of being close to her. I think the feelings are connected to trust and commitment. Each months that passes without a sleeping elsewhere episode contributes to those feelings.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
