Really ont know your whole situation,but thought I add some of my thoughts to this.My wife also does this sometimes act all normal but then I guess realize what she doing and if I make a gesture lets do something. No I am too tired but thanks. It is weired its like they want to be with you but are fighting it. As of when she stares and eem she is in deep thought. Maybe tell her i had a real good time with you tonite. reminded me why I married you n the first place. Well have a good night and you know the rill end th conversation and keep her thinking. I think its the small things we say sometimes that make them think and wonder.Especially if its all we say. I figured that out with my wife instead of talking in circles say one sentence and let it simmer. It usually gets a good response. What do you think of that? Maybe you can let me know more of your situation.