FG~ I am glad to "see" you are still alive....I was really..seriously getting worried. since I hadn't heard from you in a while, I was wondering what was going on...I understand the "lack of time"....you are a busy guy...and seems like everyone is "requesting" Dr.FG!!!! You could be the next Dr. Phil!!!! LOL!!!!
Talked to H for a few mins. last nite. I text him to remind him of our C appt. and he started up some conversation...it was nice. My sister invited him to my b-day party, so I asked him if he was coming, he said that would be way to akward, which i understand....so i asked him if we could do dinner after our MC appt, he said "k" so we shall see. I will not count my chickens before the eggs hatch!!! LOL!!!! But if he wasn't sure he usually just says we will see....so I'm thinking this could be a positive??? Thoughts anyone???
Anywho, off to school, one week left then winter break...rock on!!!
Christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"
I think that H maybe coming around. Agreeing to have dinner is a positive thing. (I think) All of all of these small baby steps will added up to be a mile. Then 2 miles, then 3 miles and so on and so forth. It may start out slow, but it you will take bigger and bigger steps and move faster. Time is on your side. Look at my sitch. It started out real slow and now we are in a full stride. You will get there.
I bet you are ready for the holiday break. You have been working hard and you will need a break. I get out on the 12th and we come back on the 2nd. Christmas time is an emotional time for everyone. It could work for you.
Did you ever get to talk to your Attn?
Last night W called and said that she had rearranged her schedule for the weekend and she will come by and pick me up this afternoon and take me out for my birthday. She sounded really happy and excited about doing this B-day thing. She is signing notes and saying I Love You with emotion.
She told me that she had gone through all of her nightgowns and will have to start over. I want to buy her another sexy gown or Baby Doll or Teddy for my B-day to give to her. I have a question for you.
Should I buy one and give it to her or I take her by Victoria Secrets and have her pick one out? Which way would be more romantic? If I buy it would be a surprise, if she shops with me she will be able to pick it out, but it would not be a surprise, but she will get what she likes.
Please give me some advise on the matter. (Anyone)
I think things are moving forward very well!! Yesterday was my B-Day. I hit another milestone in life. Too young to retire, but old enough to know I want too.
W made plans for us. We went out to eat at a nice restaurant. I asked her if she would go with me to the mall and help me pick out a B-day present for me. I took her to Victoria Secrets and asked her to pick out a sexy nightgown for her to dance in at home that night.
She could not find anything that would fit. (Boy did I think I blew it!!!) Instead we went to another store and she found not one, not two, but four sexy things to wear. I asked her not to show me any of them and to pick the one she want to wear for the night of dancing in our living room.
We got home and we dance for two hours. Cuddling and hugging and rubbing on each other. Me in my boxers and her in her sexy shear baby doll out fit. The evening ending with me giving her a full body massage. She has been sleeping in the guess room when she is here over night, but last night we slept together in our bed. No sex, but we cuddled all night.
We are going shopping today and she plans staying at home tonight, but sleeping in the guess room. She doesn’t want to rush things. It will be another cold shower for me tonight LOL, but it is well worth a few cold showers to get as back together full time.
So how do you think things are going for me?
I do not like bragging, but this something positive to write and read on this forum. Maybe it will show some people here that things can and do work out.
You are the reason that I am getting this for so quick. I sincerely hope that you can make the same progress with your sitch. You have worked hard and deserve some success.
By the way thanks for the advice. She really enjoyed shpping for the sleep wear.
I hope you had a good time at your Christmas party.
Thank you for your remarks. My sitch seems to be looking up. And Thank You for letting me elaborate on my sitch. I am looking forward to thing heating up in ILL.
It is time to concentrate on you and your sitch. Have you picked a nice quit place for dinner with H?
Five or fewer days left before the end of the semester. Your study time will pay off for you. I also know you will be relieved for this semester to come to an end and put it behind you. I know you are going to work as much as you can over the holidays, but remember to take some time for yourself.
Drunk or sober two way communicating with H is good. It is better sober, but at least it is communication. You should try to make as much hay as you can with H at dinner. However, play your cards close to your vest. Pay attention to the lay of the land. Use your gut feeling and your women intuition to determine how strong and far you can go (push) on this first dinner date. You may find having a friendly, relaxing, and enjoyable dinner with H may open him up to having more dinners together. When you can bring up each topic as you need to.
RULE OF THUMB. Do not make more than 3 negative remarks or criticisms of what your H has or has not done during any of your meetings with him. He will quit lessening after that and turn you off. You do not want to turn him off.
Play it cool. You need to show you are in control, but not controlling. He need to see that you are capable of handling yourself, without the need of his shoulder.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
I am a little nervous about tomorrow. H text msgd me this morning asking about the paper work. I simply said, you and i were supposed to get together and talk about the details and that never happend, so my atty. was not sure what all to put into the paper work...so for now the paper work is at a standstill. He never responded. It makes me nervous for two reasons. one, is going to show up tomorrow, since nothing has been signed and two, if he doesn't show up...well, i'm really afraid of why he is doing this. I think we both know the answer if he chooses not to show up.
I am really hoping and praying he will show up, he has in all of messages said he was going to. I think I will be re-thinking my position some if he does not.
I am just kind of nervous right now...any thoughts????
((((VS))))
christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"
I tried to respond to you last, my home computer went down. It is being work on as we speak.
I know you are scared about tonight. I would be as well even if the W said she was coming. So I know how you are feeling.
Try this, text H and say "I am looking forward to seeing you at the C and having dinner with you tonight." Do not ask. Make your message sound like it is a given that he is going to be there. See how he responds.
It sounds like you are covering some icy roads in you sitch. You should assume that there will some patches of black ice some where along the way. Do not let it worry about it too much, but know it will be there so you can react appropriately. Your sitch will see some clear roads sometime soon, but we got to get through the ice first. This will make you stronger.
