well screw her and all her what she wants him to have crap, we got him things he did NEED, and this thing is so flippen cool. she invaded my H, my personal email and omg my time all day with her NEVER ending calls. sheesh even when we were hunting she had called 10 times. little man will love this, he knows his daddy has a motorcycle. and this makes the coolest noise, AND it teaches him hand eye cordintation, and balance an to peddle, so THERE to her and her stupid idea. LOL evil i was tonite, pure selfish evil, and it felt sooooooooooo good.
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
well tomato, you will be happy to know sara conner didnt see any bambis tonite. i sat and froze for nothing, they are safe until dawn tomorrow. so hunting was a bust, to windy really, but waited til last minute dark to come in. Then H and I went shopping for his S for his bday prezzies. OW has only called a zillion dang times today, and sadly for her, I over road his main present, we didnt get what she wanted, got something way cooler and more appropriate, and cheaper, so we could get him some other things also. altho that was hard, as EVERYTHING he was worried what SHE Thought, not what he wanted to get. it made shopping very hard, AND we had already had plans set for tomorrow with her, and of course, she has now taken those back, and changed the rules, i am so frustrated. i am serious its like he has two wifes, i laughted about it earlier. he is putting together S's big present right now. cool to watch him do it, even tho, I wont get the joy of seeing his little face see it. i so think its time for a cold beer.
I am not sure why you presumed that I am not in favor of you scoring a big buck. I was not happy to hear that at all . I guess cuz I mentioned bambi you automatically figured that I was like some kinda dizzy PETA blonde against the slaughter or something. I just couldn't think of any other well known deer reference other than bambi. SHe's obviously the most famous one.
I am not big into guns and have only used a real firearm once while visiting my bro out in Cody, WY @ a dude ranch there some 8 years ago or so. So, better luck today and I hope you enjoyed the beer.
no kills this morning, didnt even get to go out, the beeotch started calling early, changing the plans for today, so we didnt get to meet with his son as planned, only H and his mom were allowed to and it had to be at such and such a time, and i heard her say, that beeotch isnt allowed to sign the card.
so she says jump he says how high, no hunting, and off he and his mom went. they arent even allowed cameras. no hunting, i dont get to see him open his presents. and i am seriously rethinking what i can handle. i sure cant live like this with her calling like she does. he has never jumped for me.
sorry just in a mood this morning.
hey tomato, I knew you were kidding!! your posts and comments brought me such joy, i was sitting here laughing so hard i was crying!!!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
All I can say BG is "HOLY CRAP!" That woman (I used the term loosely) has a pair on her doesn't she? If your H is going to jump like that for her then he needs to go find his pair (maybe she's got 'em in her pocket). Seriously!
Keep watch and see what he does regarding your boundaries. If he breaks one - he's gone. You're going to have to be very stern about this in order to protect yourself.
I wish I could say something helpful, but I have no idea how to handle this sitch. Sugar should be able to help though. Hopefully she's around today.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
BG-had a rough day at work yesterday and just couldn't get here. Stop. You did the boundaries but someone asked were the consequences clear? Maybe instead of going to the party she throws, he should throw one for his S of his own. I know she will have a fit. Hold on, breathe. She will make this as hard for him to do what you and maybe he really wants to cuz she wants him in her life. If she agrees to your boundaries, other people there, then you are winning. If she gives him hard time and makes him choose you or son, she is hopeful that you will walk away and then she has her real shot. If he wasn't at least conflicted, he would have left. When I had my A, it was when OM really started pressuring me to leave H that I left OM. Your H is in a more difficult sitch cuz there is a child. He is not choosing her exactly, he is trying to choose his child and can't make it work with both of you cuz of her, not you. Talk to him. Don't argue, blame, whatever. Maybe you need to let it be for a little while until you are a little more settled with it. Maybe until after the holidays. Just act as if you didn't find anything out. Watch how he acts toward you. How he treats you only when he is there. Don't worry at all what he is doing when not there. Pretend he doesn't exist and she doesn't. See if he acts like he is saying about you and what he wants. It might make this easier to really decide if you can see that. This is a big big thing to correct. He can't do it overnight. He is not superman. Although he is married to wonder woman. LOL. You can do it but you are trying to stuff the whole cake in your mouth at one time. You can only eat it bite by bite. You want to do this, i think. But you don't know if he means what he says. Start there. Let him show you love, friendship, compassion. Keep the boundary for physical intimacy and see if he tries to date you. To court you. When you are comfortable that he may really WANT this, then move onto the next bite.
Oh crap I had something really profound to say and it flew right out of my head. Maybe it will come back later. She is going to give him a hard time. In the end, if he stays with you, he may have to take this to court because she is NOT going to easily give in to you being around her S. This is going to be a process. And if he is any kind of man, he will not walk away from this child. He has said he would, but shown otherwise. I give him a lot of credit for that.
That is it for now. I need more coffee. Good morning. I jumped in with my op before I even said that. Smile and be strong sweetie. Think about what I said. Will send email in the alt later today.
just had to requote this. I believe it is very right on, and that you should really consider it.
and I'm SOOOOO sorry I missed your bday! I really forgot! I'm so bad at bdays. and don't worry about this bday, remember, these are all just days, it is so easy for us to put sutch sentiment into a specific day, but every day is just like another. It's all about what we do within that day that makes it great or not.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Hey LE!! there you are!! I was very proud of myself in my boundaries and how i worded them, especially with the child sitch, I did a great job. and he even said they were more than reasonable. it was the double whammy of already trying to break them, and the trying to buy me into thinking it was ok.
If he was okay with the boundaries, well, I understand you holding to them.
Originally Posted By: Babygirl
I kinda agree on the cake eating, as if this party deal is all so innocent, what would be the problem with him taking someone along? that is better for me, and honestly safer for him, as she wont be able to try and be on him ya know? neither of them deserve any trust from me, but he will not see it that way, and he wont stand up to her, he keeps saying she has all the power, I said ONLY because you let her.
Either he really is trying to cake eat, or he's petrified of her because she does have a great hold on him. She does have a lot of power, and true he is letting her, but I think what he needs is some legal advice. Have you asked him what he is afraid of? Like, what does he think will happen if he puts his foot down with her? I think if you guys talk again, you need to ask him what he thinks is acceptable. and give him a scenerio if it were you in his shoes, if you had a baby from an A and if he'd be okay with you and the dad spending time together? But be calm. you've got to have almost a lack of emotion, and don't let him engage you in fights, if he raises his voice then tell him you guys can discuss it later when you both can talk calmly.
I agree that you need to continue working on you. being the best babygirl ever. Don't let his choices hurt you. or at least don't let him see it.
((bg))
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
. I guess cuz I mentioned bambi you automatically figured that I was like some kinda dizzy PETA blonde against the slaughter or something. I just couldn't think of any other well known deer reference other than bambi. SHe's obviously the most famous one.