Treese, Please do not allow fear to rule your thoughts right now. You've got to keep a level head about you so that you can protect your children and you from what your h may be proposing to do about finances. Always remember, you have nothing to fear, but fear itself.
Hang in there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.