Yes,made it another day,so I thought I give an update and see what everybody thinks. They are not in order or one converstion just things I remember and stuck in my head. Situation over last month or so:
ME: why cant you come home and give this marriage a try? HER: I need time If I dont come home bymyself its not right.Why cant you use the time to find yourself but not with another woman.
ME: I dont want to be your choice but your priority!! HER: I dont know what you mean by that all I do is go to work and come home
ME: What do you think about MC and see if it can help? HER: I dont think!!!
ME: Howmuch time do you think you need? HER: I dont know
ME: So are you saying you want his marriage you just need some time to work on you and have some peace. HER: No I am not saying that,dont want to lead you on.
ME: I am tired of that I am the only one trying to keep this marriage together and you just do nothing. HER:What do you mean I didnt say I was working on the marriage,but didnt I ask you the other day whats playing in the movies,and if you wanted to go.(Which she hasnt done since it all happened) I could kep going on its like she is saying a not coming home but wants her actions to say I might com home. I know she loves me I can feel it,bu something is keeping this women from givin our marriage a try. It is rather she feels guilt and wants it to blow over and then when its ll gone try or her friends is telling her to find herself and not talk to me and other woman and she will see who she wants. Right now I know i am trying the let her initiate any contact and see if she comes to me like the other day and ask for a movie or somehing.I think it hurts so much because now I see that she still loves me but not coming home.Before I see the evilness and that she wanted out but my 180 brought her back to me so that helped but she is not coming home. Staying strong though and this forum is helping alot.
