There is no chance I will be pushed into something I don't want. I think if I have my brother there with me it will scare him off, plus I am strong enough to do this by myself, although I feel sick and nervous at the thought. He seems so shut off again. I got a text this morning saying
'I could do Monday straight after work? There aren't really any implications of the payment holiday, other than we wouldn't have to pay any mortgage in that time and hopefully the house would be sold by then.'
I wrote back and said 'Monday it is. 5.30ish, you can choose the venue or there are some pubs in M (near my work)'.
Ok, so I need to set some goals for the meeting. I am rubbish at goal setting. He clearly has this all mapped out in his head and is getting a bit arsey because I am not agreeing straight away to what he sees is right.
This is actually a complete role reversal because I used to decide what was right and then get annoyed with him if he didn't agree and couldn't see any other point of view. I know I wouldn't have backed down previous to my pre DBing self. Where I couldn't see others points of view were valide.
I am not sure how to start this/ approach it.
I don't want the mortgage break because it means that the interest will come out of the equity and it also means I have to stay here another 8 months. I also doubt that it would sell within 8 months.
I would like to rent out the house till the economy stabablises a bit.
I feel a bit bullied and pushed into things. I'm sure that is not his intention but he seems so distant and shut off at the moment. Does anyone have any ideas to engage him or should I just not try to engage him, make him work for it in some way - am I in a position to do that? I thought I would just take a 'this is business' attitude. But if he suggests a payment break and I basically say no then that is not validating.
Sigh, I am ill in bed. I don't need this.
BTW - I am going to make sure I look the best I can. I have a new top which is flattering and some new tight black jeans which seem to be getting me some attention. You can't see here but it has some lace by the boob area and is great for the cleavage
