I found a really good book recently, "The Power of a Woman's Words" by Sharon Jaynes, which I think you will find very helpful in your situation with your H.
BTW, I did read up about your latest incident with him regarding the door-to-door solicitors. Hence, I am telling you about this book.
I also thought AT FIRST that you were talking about a lawyer when you mentioned "solicitor".
As for the warm response, he usually is warm in his response even when he turns me down. Not new.
