Another Wife Hit By The Bomb #4

[lovehimso]

Hi Tawnya,

Then he told her that I didn't tell HIM that I had told our son about his planning to separate and I was like WHATTTTTTT, he and I had a convo not once but TWICE just the other day, once in person and once on the phone about that I had told him and then I even called him to tell him exactly what I had told our son so he wouldn't have to wonder..I was like OK is he LYING to her or did he forget?

I don't know what this is about, but my H does this too. I'll tell him something, we even have a DISCUSSION about it, and a couple days later when it comes up, he says I never told him about it! WTF!?! I think in my sitch, it has something to do with the pain meds, either that or my H's ADD. Your H? I have no clue what's going on.

Just wanted to tell you that I can relate! It's frustrating, isn't it?

Oh, and just wanted to say "thanks" for your encouragement on my thread today. I do REALLY appreciate it. I don't think gucci was referring directly to you. I think he just sees me trying to "explain" why I would call H back and thinks that I am going to waver. Maybe he's right, too, I don't know. I sure hope not. I hope I have the strength to continue to stand up for myself.

I just know when I feel like I'm playing a "game", and I don't want to do that because that's exactly what I won't be able to keep up, because I'm not being "real". I've never been a game player. I need my actions to come from a "true" place inside of me; I think they'll be more effective that way anyway, I think people (especially my H) can sense when I'm being "fake". I need encouragement to keep going from people like you when I DO screw up, which I am sure I will continue to do because I am NOT perfect. I'm just doing my best, and this is really hard.

Gotta add, though, that I just love gucci! I really appreciate his perspective.

Have a great night Tawnya! I'm off to hopefully get the kids to bed early, then nurse a migraine.