Hugs PH. I always say do what is in your heart. I have sent my h e-mails about thinking of him or thanking him for things that he helped me with.
Many times I did not get a response, but that was ok because they were sent with love and caring.
I am not so sure your h sees them as pursuing. Just do what feels right and loving and let it come from the heart. How could you be faulted if you follow your heart.
Jesus didn't think about if he said this or did that it would be perceived as this. I don't put much stock into how it's going to be perceived, but that my heart was in the right place and I did it out of love not to get a response from my h.
There is nothing wrong with showing another that you care about them and love them.
The best advice I can give is when your h brings up issues, just agree with him. He will have no where to go with it. Like when he says you fought to much. Something like h you are right we did fight a lot and we slept apart too many nights. Your right, but what I did love was the fact we had fun making up. Then just give him a big wink and a smile. See how you can take something negative and turn it into a positive.
We will be in touch!
GG, Thanks for the hug.
I do hope my H doens't see my contact as pursuing. I guess I could get used to not living with him, but I do miss going to him for advice about things. I am so used to bouncing off ideas with him or just asking his opinion.
As for making up after fights, he usually was the one to do it. I wish I did my fair share of it. Something I have learned since the separation.
Yes, I do want him to know he's being loved, and I need to worry less about how he would take it, as long as my intentions are pure and well-meaning.
I hope you find a L&R group to join. Churches offer them. Maybe you can ask your Church to start one.
I understand about the busyness. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers.
Today, my H turned down my invitation (sent 2 days ago). It's OK. He was warm in his response. I told him it's OK. I hope he feels welcome any time.
