God grant me the patience and the strength...9

[theotherhalf]

MWG, to add to the dignity thing. The first time OW slept with my H I was of course furious and broken. EVERYONE, I mean EVERYONE that knows me thought that I would go after her. She was very scared of me and continued to be so for many years after. I did nothing. I dealt with H and never had a second thought about her. Probably would have been the same way this time if it would have been different.

If they wouldn't have taunted me, rubbed it in my face, tried to make me feel like I was crazy by hiding from me and then letting me catch them, if she wouldn't have told me "I'm 42 years old and can do what I want" the very first time I caught them. If they would have just admitted to what they were doing. If H would have just gotten a D and she would have left him alone till then. If she wouldn't have repeatedly called me every filthy name in the book. (I never did call her a name)

What I'm trying to say is that sooooo many things led up to the assault. So many things that could have been avoided.