You sound like you are managing these interactions well. And, I know how frustrating they are...it's like you and H are on different planets sometimes!!! Have you always paid attention to the accounts, or is it possible that he thinks you won't notice the $1400 withdrawal? If you think it's possible that he might completely clean out your account, you might think about getting a separate one yourself and moving some money there. I did that...H was furious when he found out. But, I just said, I can't trust you.
Just try to keep the convos light and keep your chin up!
Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!