If I tell her to stop coming over on school mornings to make breakfast for the girls, and to invite the girls to go to HER 'place' when she wants to spend time with them she will hate me more. Or she will threaten me with legal action. Either way I am pushing her away.
But, in a way I am enabling her by letting her come over to be with the girls in MY / THEIR house.
Amy and others are right. I'm afraid I will lose her and I keep this connection with her as a way to feel like I have some control over this situation. My self esteem is crap and I'm living in fear. When I was angry at her it wasn't like that.
I got sucked into the pit when I was nice and she was nice.
I'm in control of me, my home and my life. Maybe she will divorce me but I'm not going to continue to let her have her cake and eat it too.
