Working on a friendship

[Belle]

Thanks for your inupt, optimist.

I'm really struggling with the idea of DB coach. I'm trying to put into words why, but I just can't seem to...

I hate to be a downer, but how can anyone ever trust their WAH/W who had an EA or PA again?

I don't want to live my whole life wondering if my H is starting EA's....

I don't need that...

I do know that if I marry someone else, there's always the potential for it.

But I totally see my H as the someone who this may happen to again. He likes "fire" in his life, as he puts it. "I will not stay married just to stay married if I'm not happy." In his family, marriages are disposable. (It's not really a marriage b/c it's not really a commitment. Just get out when you're not happy!)

I wish I would have thought about this more before we married.

But hindsight is 20/20, of course.

So my struggle is, I don't want to spend hundreds of dollars on something/someone that I'm not even sure is what I want. Some days I want him back is, some days I feel I'm better off without him.

Is there anyone out there that feels that way????

Anyone?

OR is everyone just "full steam ahead, save my marriage!"

Struggling today, sorry to vent......

I do appreciate your advice, optimist.

I'm glad that your sitch is going so well, you deserve it with all of your hard work!