Ok, I have about 15 minutes before my son gets off the bus....You are putting yourself "out there" for us so we can continue to remind you what you already know. No use in lying to us, we are the only ones telling you what you should do to try to save your marriage. No one else in the real world over there is going to do anything but tell ya to move on...especially your good "friend", B. I don't judge you for what you did, but continue to implore you to try to do something different and try to see what we all see. You are making choices, just like your wife made a choice. Thing is, you KNOW BETTER.


Comments on what you said:

* You didn't let her "pop in" during your time to have d7 when she wanted to "help" pick her up. GOOD.

*Tries to chit chat. You are quiet. GOOD.

*Her and her phone calls. She wants it this way, she wants a divorce, so she has to have it that way then. Your time is your time and her time is her time. That's what a divorce is. She is such a cake eater.

*B....A big ol' blech to all of that. Called you crying because she had a terrible day at work. BLech. You apologize. Blech, blech. You confide in her about how last year's bday sucked making her think she will change that THIS year. Blechy blechy, blech. You invite her to the party. PUKE! N with her bf and you and B, how nice......you two arriving as a "couple"..Double puke.

*Fun little, married couple interactions between each other.....even though she is with OM and won't stop. So, she will interact like you are married, but she won't really BE married. She's got it good.

*Tells you about how she cries when her girls are not there with her. Bingo, Lady, you don't get to be with your kids full time when you are divorced. This is what you wanted! Don't comfort her, h4h!!!!

*She's spending time on messenger, cam-ing, changing her picture so others can see how pretty she is (or at least OM while he is at work or whatever)....and the same time, IMs her husband and has a nice long, meaningful convo, even though she is sleeping with OM.

h4h, you know you are my favorite. You know why? Because you remind me of my H and because I know we think the same on so many things. You and your W can be soo happy, and you have a chance at this....You both have faith in God. This fight is not over. Stop the B doo doo, and stop letting your wife act like she is not having an affair.