I'm so sorry you have to go through this.There is no good time to tell your children what has been happening. You've protected D17 from this for such a long time. It was a heavy burden you carried. Maybe now H will face up to his actions.
I wish you the best of luck telling your D.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz