Another Wife Hit By The Bomb #4

[Amy M]

You can bring it up again...I my opinion that's not the same as pursuing him. You believe that your child has a need, and he has an obilgation to help meet that need. You would have that same convo with him even if you were D'ed, so, I think it's appropriate.

But, if she doesn't need it right now, then I wouldn't bring it up now...cause then he'll know it's related to him taking the money out and he'll possibly think you are trying to guilt him into changing his behavior. Maybe that can be part of the settlement discussion he wants to have...how are you going to handle D's expenses in the future (cause technically, he's not going to have to pay child support for her and he's not required by law to fund college)?

My attorney told me to include everything in our settlement...especially college expenses including room and board, etc. Cause if you don't, and he marries someone else, he may not be concerned so about helping your kids. I told the attorney that he'd always put them first...she just smiled and said, "Amy, if he lives with a new wife, and he has to choose between upsetting you and upsetting her, which will he choose? If you can honestly say that he'd choose to upset her, then don't include it. But, I'm here to tell you that it won't happen that way." She's right! Just keep that in mind if you get to that point.

Hugs to you!

Amy