Well, here was my response to H's email. Sent it first thing this morning. Let's see if he even bothers to respond to it. I have gotten to the point, if he emails great if he doesn't. that is fine, too. I used to tell my cousin all the time about her ex--"you can't make him be a better parent". Truer words were never spoken.
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DH--
I am sure the kids will love to get another "Daddy movie", no matter when it comes in. D9 starts her meds and treatment the weekend of the 19th. We are all fine and the kids and I are very busy over the net few weeks, what with all the holiday stuff going on.
SMW
Off to grab some coffee. I will check in with ya'll later.
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
And it only took an hour and a half to get a response today.
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SMW,
Okay, I’ll get it out in the mail as soon as it’s recorded. What are you guys going to do for S2’s B-day on Tuesday? I’ll try sending him an e-card. Hopefully the internet cooperates with me on that one. Is he going to have a themed party? Tell him I said Happy Birthday for me. Alright, I’ll keep in touch to see how D9 is doing.
DH
I guess it is more of the same. So, I will write him later--give him bare facts on S2's birthday and close it up.
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Hi, SMW! I just wanted to pop in, say hello, and say how much you've truly inspired me. I'm new here, and when I got to this community, one of the first threads I found was yours. Over the past few days, I've read through your many threads, and I just wanted to say that you truly are an inspiration. There are some similarities in our sitchs, and I can honestly say that reading about your journey has helped me to be stronger and more objective.
Your story has taught me a lot about resilience and fortitude.
Your story has also helped to reinforce a lesson that I only recently learned. I am very ashamed to admit that I spent much of my life living in fear of being a military wife (my husband was a MArine before we married) because I had some really pathetic prejudices in my mind. I am not proud to admit that, but I have to be honest with myself. I have alot of childhood issues that make me fear being a mother, a caregiver, and a true wife. I've had lots of preconceived negative perceptions of military wives because of my own unfair negativity towards my mom (not a military wife, but a SAHM and a really wonderful, giving woman that has sacrificed alot - including her self-esteem - for me), and my unfounded fears of finding myself in a situation similar to hers. As I've grown older, I've shed a lot of those misconceptions, and reading about your journey removed the final remaining scale from my eyes.
You are a woman to be respected, and you have taught me that a strong, driven, intelligent woman can also be kind and giving and supportive without diminishing herself in any way.
You're an amazing lady, and you are really doing a great job. I hope everything works our for you.
Scratch that. I know that everything will work out for you, and that God has great plans for you.
I meant every word. It's hard to confront my prejudices, but it's part of growing and becoming a better person. In some ways, I couldn't be happier that my life fell apart and I came here.
Glad you got your name changed as it really fits for you. I like the course you are taking.
One question though: Did you ever talk about what would happen at the end of this deployment with your H?
Blessings
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
