Last couple days the weather has been rough on me!! I will try to post up some stuff tonite....I think I am detached to the point I don't even need to post!!
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
Thanks for your posts in my thread. I just finished reading about your sitch and the differences from mine are giving me much to think about. Of course the similaritiea are there...they always are. What a tough road we follow.
On a happier note I was stoaked to ride yesterday...I had a chuckle at bike night that it was december and the weather was still cooperating.
Hang in there.
HTTE
Me:34 W:31 d's 5 & 10 M: 5 years, T: 8, Bomb1 3/8/08,#2:3/28/08 Asked 4 D:4/19/08, discovered PA 5/8/08,W moved out 6/30/08 W pregnant by OM: 2/17/08
Working today...will update 1 day at a time off and on. Tuesday At home after work doin regular family stuff...W was starting to get sick so she was holed up in her cave. Made a few trips down to the laundry room which is across from Ws cave...door was closed and I could hear her talking. Inquiring minds want to know....I stopped in front of door to listen. She was talking to OM on the phone....heard a little and walked away. Her talking to him in OUR house all "lovey dovey" really burned me up inside. I opened the door...repeated some stuff I had heard her saying...asked her to stop talking to him our of respect for OUR family in OUR home. Of course she was pissed! You can't control who I talk to....I have a rite to privacy..etc etc. I told her she was rite about privacy...but talking to him in our house was unacceptable. I told her I can't stop her...but at least go outside in your car and do it!! Some of the stuff I heard her saying disgusted me....not sexual talk....but how "regular" the stuff was. Stuff WE would talk about just a few months ago...that's what really set me off. Of course there was the "you always make me fee better when I talk to you" kinds stuff...made me sick...
Gotta do some work....will get in some more on my next break.
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
She was talking to OM on the phone....heard a little and walked away. Her talking to him in OUR house all "lovey dovey" really burned me up inside. I opened the door...repeated some stuff I had heard her saying...asked her to stop talking to him our of respect for OUR family in OUR home. Of course she was pissed! You can't control who I talk to....I have a rite to privacy..etc etc. I told her she was rite about privacy...but talking to him in our house was unacceptable. I told her I can't stop her...but at least go outside in your car and do it!!
54,
You posted something on my thread that I will put right back at you:
Originally Posted By: carpenter54
You sure you are not married to my wife?? Almost exact words I heard
What your W said above is almost identical to what I heard a couple times. We really need to find that damn script at Barnes & Nobel or Amazon so we can read ahead at what to expect! Think it would be in the "Classics" section? Maybe Shakespeare...
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Tuesday cont I tell W....if you want to be with him so bad just go! Of course she says she can't cause of the kids...blah blah blah. I tell her let's go sit down and write up a 50/50 agreement rite now and we can both sign it. We calm down and head to the kitchen table...get some paper....she says she can't....SHE can't trust me! Trust me...I tell her she is the one who has broken my trust.
I remind her of the BS papers she gave me...and the child molester crack All the stories of her and OM she told me about All the times she told ME NOT to trust her
I got the feeling she is REALLY scared of what I do know
We quit that and ahead off to our seperate beds
I wake up Wednesday and think to myself....why am I being SO "fair" about this...why should I "settle" for 50/50???
My L and I had a discussion. The battle will me slightly uphill for me....But I do have alot going my way. I meet most of the criteria for see custody....the judge we will have is "pro dad"....why shouldn't I go for broke and make HER bargain with me!!
Wed thurs and Friday I barely speek 50 words to W. She called me a few times...I text a response..I did not even email or text her first with anything....she noticed. One of my replies to her was....I can't believe anything you tell me rite now please understand why I don't want to talk to you. I relived some of the things she told me about her and OM ....meeting him when me and the girls were home....I know of 2 of these occasions by her own admission. I am having HUGE issues with trusting her parenting decisions when we are D....look at the ones she made when we were M!! She "insists" they are not related....she still says that sh!t now....the kids are taken care of...I am not making bad parenting decisions!! BS!! I am taking care of them!!!
Gotta go back to work......Will have more later.
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
I like ur idea of pursuing greater than fifty/fifty. It sounds like a safe bet and would ruin ur w's plan. Right now I think you should be more intersted in respect than anything w/ w. Her talking to om in the house is complete disrespect.
W's decision making skills are questionable at best. Is it possible to put more of the parenting responsibility on her. I say that because it's time to shake up the affair some more.
Hope you are okay
Think it would be in the "Classics" section? Maybe Shakespeare...