I don't believe GAL means not showing her how loving you can be. I believe it's purpose is for you to take some of the focus off of her and put the focus on you and what you need to do to get yourself positive about yourself. I fear by you showing how loving you can be only, you will be smothering her.
Connections with past flames can be powerful and it is easy to have those romantic feelings as the fantasy plays out in your mind. You do need to pay attention with this kind of thing.
Is her old boyfriend married? Does he seem to be showing the same feelings for her? You biggest challenge may just be your wife and how you might be able to disrupt her fantasy of her old boyfriend.
keep posting.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
