H49, W49, M22yrs, D22, S17. Comfortable marriage, but romantically challenged in hindsight. 7/2008: discovered W's EA. 8/2008: disclosed my knowledge of EA to W. 8/2008 to 12/2008: W is ambivalent (cannot decide between our marriage or OM), stopped MC because not 100% committed to marriage, both now in individual counseling.
Says she loves me and has hope for our marriage, and indeed acts lovingly to me. We behave as normal H and W for now (I don't bring up EA topic much). But she admits to strong romantic love for OM (old boyfriend) and continues to secretly contact him a few times a week. I have not done much GAL method because we are still close and I am trying to show her the genuine loving H I can be after this wakeup call.
I feel that she is trying to keep both relationships alive while trying to make up her mind, or she is stringing me along until our S graduates HS.
Looking for encouragement on giving it more time, and advice on whether to continue as loving H, vs. GAL, vs. 180 (or more extreme).
