I am so sorry that you have to have these awful thoughts. I do know how you feel- picturing your H with someone else. I don't have any solution. My sitch is all over the place!
Did you ever do the DB coaching? If you haven't I really really recommend that you do! Jody has helped me with my feelings and actions more than I can every say. She may help give you a better direction of what YOU need to do to help yourself (in respects to life and your marriage). Especially now that you are having more contact with H. This is where things have the potential to change quickly...
I think I DO know where I would be if I hadn't had my first session with her in July- and it wouldn't include my H.
Consider it- as the best present you can give yourself.
Me-36 H-30 T-7yr, M-3yr DivorceBusting Saved my marriage! sep 6-08 to 12-08. Together again, things are good!
