Couple of interesting interactions with my W this week.
On Tuesday she called me at work at lunch time to see what I was doing. Told her I had just got done eating and asked what she was doing and how her day was going. She said it has been busy and that she was just calling to tell me that they were getting ready to leave for their overnight conference. Told her to drive safely and to have a good time. We talked for a while longer and then she said that she would call tonight.
I knew she was going out of town and that they were leaving around noon but not sure why she called. It was nice that she did. She did call later on in the evening and talked to my D for a minute and then we talked for a while about the rest of her day and mine and what her plans were for tomorrow as far as when she will be home and stuff.
On Wednesday I had a meeting at a job site late in the afternoon about an 1-1/2 from home. On my way back I called my D to let her know when to turn the oven on and to start dinner so I could get them to swim practice on time. When I got home my W car was in the driveway, I was surprised because I did not think she would be home till late. As soon as I got out of my car my phone rang and it was my W. As I walked up onto my deck I could see her talking to me on the phone through the kitchen window, she saw me and laughed. We continued to talk on the phone as I came through the back door and she had gone into the dinning room to get something. She said goodbye but I kept talking and she finally said goodbye again and hung up on me. The nerve of her hanging up on me like that.
Last night I was downloading pictures for my S science project so that we could send them somewhere to get them printed. I was sitting in the chair at the computer while my W was sitting on the floor near me. We were talking about our day and stuff while I finished getting the pictures to the site. It was getting late so as the pictures were downloading to the site my W said for me to go to bed since I have to get up early and she will finish.
Here is the interesting part she said to me “help your old lady up here.” Now I have never and would never say that to any woman let alone my W and normally she would say “help me up.” Not really sure why she said that. I know in the construction industry around her a lot of the men call their W or GF that but I have always found it to be derogatory and demeaning to them. Maybe its nothing but I thought it was an interesting comment by her that’s all.
Today we are meeting at my S school for a parent/ teacher conference. Not sure what this is about but I am banking it is due to his lack of effort in school. He just got his report card and all the teachers said the same thing. Good student, does not pay attention in class and is not working to his potential. He got all A’s and B’s and a C in math for the first time which I am not happy about and that is the teacher we are seeing today at 11:45. After the conference my W and I are going out to lunch. I know she has talked to him about his lack of effort and not paying attention in class so I will leave it be until the next report card and if he has not improved he knows I will be the one stepping in at that point.
Tonight I have a High School Swim meet and then early tomorrow is my kids age group swim meet so its going to be a long couple of days on a pool deck.
I am planning on talking to my W this weekend about where we stand and about possibly going to MC to improve our communications skills that are severely lacking. Hopefully she is receptive to it and opens up to me about how she feels and how she thinks we are doing.
