untying a few knots #9

[Amy M]

So, BG...I have a quick story to help you keep things in perspective...

Before H announced that he was leaving me, his friend's H was killed in a tragic accident. OW, who I suspected as OW at the time, but didn't know for certain, came down to be with friend. We spent all week taking care of friend. One night, while we were there, OW starts talking to me about her M. She tells me that things have been tough, but they are working through their issues. She tells me that she's invited Christ into her life and that she's really excited for that. She even recommends a series of religious fiction books that I should read. And, goes so far as to explain that the first one is about a man having an A and his W standing for their M with faith that God would bring him home.

Now, I'm fairly perceptive. And, I left that night honestly believing that I had been wrong about her and H. I knew H had been involved with someone else, but after that discussion that night, I was convinced that it was not her and that she knew about the A because she and H were just friends (as he'd claimed all along).

So, 4 days later...yes, just 4 short days...she and H skipped work and took the boat out for the day while I was out of town. That was huge on many levels...H is all about the business; they were short staffed anyway cause of friend's H's death; my H was the only contact daycare had if something happened to my boys, etc., etc., etc. I'm now certain that when she and I had that convo., and we were "bonding" about our similar sitches, she and H had already planned the outing.

The bottom line is...the OW can't be trusted. She wants what you have. You don't need friends like her. You don't owe her anything. She's spent the last 3 years trying to take your family from you. Nothing she can tell you will make a difference now. You know everything you need to know already.

Don't respond to her email. Don't encourage her in any way. She's said all you need to hear.

Take care of you!!!

Love you!
Amy