Trixi aka "The Pitbull who can't let go"

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Trixi...
Well done! Like it.. theres a bunch of us who kind of stopped DBing, or maybe, stopped the no-R talks rule at least. I reckon tjis was a really good convo.. and like you said, he agreed, he stayed with it, he listened and he didnt say he didnt want to be M anymore, so thats all positive right.

This jumped out at me as THE most significant thing said (and I reckon it sums up why my ex left)...

"*Again he said he was scared he would get bored; that it wouldn't turn out, and he knows that if I move back in, that's it. There is no going back. It will be for the rest of our lives."

...thats pretty much the crux of it right, the rest, is just noise.

I dont know how you get around that one.. its defo a MLC thing, its about acceptance.. accepting a higher love, instead of chasing The NExt Best Thing.. and then ending up right back in the same spot once that R reaches maturity, except he'd then be 1, 5 or 10 years, whatever, older.

My BMF (who recognises he's in a MLC) said the same as your H, about his W and then made the connection I did above.. ok, swap my W for someone new/younger, but 10/20 years down the line, I'll be in the same place, but I'll be older, fatter, greyer and sadder.

So, are you going to keep on waiting patiently whilst he figures it out?

Al xxx