Yesterday I was feeling weird as H hadn't reached out at all during the day, and this is unlike him. I know that I was overanalyzing though. So H got home early from school again, and we ate dinner. He started off being slightly irritable as I had forgotten to do some cleaning thing I'd said I would do. I just apologized and didn't respond to his annoyance. This seemed to do the trick, and it seemed like he was making a little bit of an effort with me when we were upstairs. He asked how my day was. This is not something he did even pre-bomb, so it was unexpected but nice.
He told me that he had been telling a friend at work about the dessert I'd made last weekend, and asked me to send the recipe to share with her as it was so good. I really liked this as I think it's a good sign if he's talking about me again to people, and in a positive way. He asked if I'd make this dessert again this weekend too.
So, we went to bed and read a bit, nothing special. However H woke up really early this morning, and came and wrapped himself around me. Then, for the 2nd night in a row, he asked me to come and hold him. He said "come and be squiggly." This is how he used to call it when I would be affectionate with him. Yes this melted my heart. It was so comfortable and nice that I overslept a bit.
Also yesterday I downloaded the audio versions of the 5 Love Languages and Passionate Marriage books. I will need to try and find time to listen when H is not around. I wanted to buy the books themselves, but it would have taken a long time to get them shipped here.
Also noteworthy is the fact that we talked about the trip again. In fact there is one aspect to the trip that we both think is really funny. My ex told me that his GF's family is used to living in small spaces and not having privacy. He told me that "it still bothers me when GF's mother changes in front of me and the rest of the family." Oh H and I have had so much fun laughing about this. I guess the family also has a sauna and ex warned me that their "nudity taboo isn't as well developed as other people's." So, we talked about what kind of gifts would be appropriate to bring for the household, and H joked about some new Victoria's Secret line for the mother, with the tag line "when you don't want it to be a secret." You had to be there I guess, but this potential for family nudity is really lightening everything up. Ex says it's usually better when there is company over, but you never know!
Anyway I have to get ready for work. I have some really lame plans tonight to go to a coworker's party that I don't want to go to. Luckily I have to take a train home so was able to give my excuse for leaving at 10 PM in advance--just long enough to be out of the house for awhile, but I still get to have some Friday time with H as well.
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
