How am I doing? Need some encouragement......

[lovehimso]

If a woman feels good about herself, it shows and that's attractive.

I agree with this statement. One of the big reasons I was reluctant to have sex with my H was because I felt so bad about how I looked. I know men are visual creatures and I thought my husband would be repulsed by me. Especially since we hadn't ML in a long time, and I had gained a lot of weight since the last time we did, I was really scared that if we did try to be intimate, once the clothes started to come off, he would be turned off, maybe even to the point of not being able to perform. I just didn't want to take that risk.

And now that he has confirmed that my weight was an issue for him, I don't feel like I was crazy to feel the way I did.

In any case, your own health has to come first and losing weight for you will make you feel better about yourself, which will show itself without you even trying and any guy will pick up on that!

Really, I AM doing this for me. This is something I have wanted to do for a long time and this is the most success I have ever had, not just because the weight is coming off, but because I feel like I finally have victory over my food "demons". I feel like I had been in bondage to the food, it was the only way I knew how to deal with sh** in my life: escape it by watching tv and eating all day.

I, myself have lost over 40lbs since last year October, so I am feeling pretty good about myself also.

Good job, Sam! 40 pounds is definitely noticeable. I know how good it felt to see my best friend, who hasn't seen me in over a month, and have her say, "oh my god, you're so skinny!" Not that I'm anywhere near "skinny", nor do I ever want to be (I prefer to be a little "curvy" myself, and don't like skinny guys, either), but it was obviously noticeable to her that I had lost a lot of weight. And it felt great!

Now, anyone else looking at me for the first time, their first impression is still going to be that I am overweight. I'm still over 200 pounds, and that's pretty fat for a 5'7" woman. But I'm gettin' there!

I'm sure you'll reach your goal Sam. And I'm sure your W will notice, too! She's obviously conscious of the whole weight issue because of her own weight loss, so I'm sure she has noticed yours as well. Has she said anything to you about it?

Well, it's getting late here and I really need to get to sleep. I'll talk to you again soon.