From a guy's point of view, how much of an influence on your feelings for a woman is her weight? Especially in my sitch, being so heavy to begin with? Oh, and considering that H has actually told me that my weight is an issue for him?
I would like to say that it has no influence, but if I am 100% honest, I would have to say that it has some influence. For me, I can honestly say that how a woman feels about her own weight is much more important than the weight itself. Of course, if someone weighs 400lbs it's a little different, but within the kind of weights we were mentioning previously, I think this is true. If a woman feels good about herself, it shows and that's attractive. I can also say with certainty that very skinny is not attractive to me at all. I always told my W that I need some CURVES! And that is the honest truth! I was attracted to my W when she was 215 and I am attracted to her now that she's 136. I will admit that she looks better now than before, but a large part of that is that she feels better about herself and makes an effort to dress nicely every day. However, the most important influence to me is the way a person makes me feel. My W and I just got along so good and made each other feel good, THAT's the most important influence on my feelings.
Having said that, that is me, some guys seem to have more issues with weight. On the upside, if your H is one of those guys, and you are losing a lot of weight, then that it is bound to have a big impact on his feelings for you! In any case, your own health has to come first and losing weight for you will make you feel better about yourself, which will show itself without you even trying and any guy will pick up on that!
Originally Posted By: lovehimso
And if he still doesn't want me, then I am sure SOMEONE will!
That's RIGHT! I, myself have lost over 40lbs since last year October, so I am feeling pretty good about myself also. I want to get under 200, that would be good, so 15 more pounds. I hope that women will pick up on that confidence also! I do notice that I am getting a little more attention from the women at the office actually, it works wonders for my PMA!
